Friendships or relationships are like seeds that are planted. Some will fall on good soil and produce fruits, while some will fall on hardened grounds with no results. Point is, be careful who and where you are sowing yourself into. In any type of relationship, some sown ‘seeds’ could simply be a waste of time, while others could bring you a lifetime of benefits. Pray for the spirit of discernment so that you are not attaching yourself to meaningless relationships. Even in business, one has to be careful whom they allow themselves to become partners with. We all know how anything that involves money can end up. So, how much more our personal everyday lives?
Some fruits are seasonal. (ref: Matthew 13- parable of the sower). This parable has been used many times about the word of God. However, I want to look at it in a different context. (Thank you Holy Spirit) Some seeds fall on ‘okay’ (not good, not bad) soil which can grow, but because the roots aren’t strong enough, they crumble and die. This can be related to people who just have the ‘title’ of friendship or boyfriend/girlfriend. Their friendship/relationship starts and ends when everything is rosy. Once you show a sign that you need them, they wither away. However, when they need you, they sprout up from nowhere. I personally like to call them ‘seasonal friends’. (haha). They come in different seasons.
Some friends are life chokers, they are not ready to support you, but constantly criticize and shoot you down at every opportunity. You start to wonder? Are you my enemy? Did we fight in our previous lives? Or did they send you to me? If you constantly worry about telling them any good news because you are unsure of how they will receive the news, then they are a thorn in your flesh. Do yourself a favour and remove them from your life, fast! (ain’t nobody gat time for that). Personally, negativity wears me out. It is one of my pet peeves and that is why I cannot possibly be friends with someone who is always negative. Such relationships just won’t work. I won’t let myself be added to a misery company. If I so wish, I can do a very good job on my own! (Drink panadol for your headache, not mine!)
Your life is too special (like they say, you only have one life to live, live it well!) not to watch the type of people you surround yourself with. If you want to be a lion or an eagle, you need to surround yourself with lions and eagles (maybe a few goats, but goats you can motivate to become eagles/lions, if that is possible, haha). It is often said, birds of the same feathers flock together, the type of friends or relationships you keep, shows the type of person you are which isn’t always fair to say, but its true majority of the time. I am not saying cut all bad ties, but you need to love them from a distance with prayers to prevent yourself from being corrupted. Bad company corrupts good manners (1 Corinthians 15:33).
A bad relationship or friendship to me is one that can cause you harm in one or more areas of your life, be it financially, emotionally, physically, in your career, spiritually etc. If they make you doubt yourself or they do not empower you in a positive way, they are toxic and should slowly wither away. Remember the importance of who and where we sow our seeds?
No matter how strong we are, people who we let in our lives can break or make us. We need to ensure we always have the right people when we need someone to fall back on. Reflect on your life and the people in it, if something doesn’t add up then make sure you trash it out. It could either be with you or your friends. You can’t always be the right one. A lot of things can be fixed from within if we take time to be observant. Ensure you have checked yourself before you go pointing fingers at your friends. (ref: Matthew 7:5)
Take a moment to ask yourself these questions….
Are you the type of friend you want? Can you pray for your friend? Are you there for them through thick and thin? Are you honest and truthful even when it hurts? Are you encouraging? Food for your thoughts. May God help us all.
Till next time …. O.O
Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.